Dear Sir, who believes courtship is fundamentally flawed

About a month ago a man by the name of Thomas Umstattd wrote an article titled 'Why Courtship is Fundamentally Flawed.' This blog post is my response. In no way do I mean any disrespect, but my view differs.
First, I would like to point out that the basic philosophy behind your arguments is flawed. I would like to point out the purpose of Courtship, is not necesarily an engagement, the purpose of courtship is to have the suitor (The guy) to spend time with the family, and the family with the suitor. The possibility of marriage might result, it might not. The purpose of this, is that when one gets married, it will affect more than the man and woman. It will affect both families. It would be ideal to have someone your parents approve of.
The promise of courtship, is not to provide ultimate happiness, or to promote a divorce free marriage. It is merely meant to get to know someone, and not nesesarily on an intimate level, although that might happen.
I agree with most of the definition of Courtship, but I would wish to change is a bit and contest a point. (Bolded and in Red)

• "The man must ask the woman’s father’s permission before pursuing the woman romantically." (He should ask the father before pursuing the woman at all!)
• High accountability (chaperones, monitored correspondence, etc). 
• Rules about physical contact and purity. (The specific rules vary from community to community).
• The purpose of the courtship is marriage. (The purpose is to get to know both parties, with the possibility of marriage in mind, but it is not the purpose.)
• High relational intentionality and intensity. (This may result, of course you talk about deeper subjects when marriage is a possible prospect, but it is not the purpose.)
• High parental involvement. Fathers typically hold a “permission and control” role rather than the traditional “advice and blessing” role held by their fathers."

The purpose of dating. 

Of course I understand the argument for traditional dating, in fact I beleive that in the way you defined it I am doing exactly that. (But not to specifically do that, we just end up hanging out at the places we gather with a ton of our friends.)

The problem is the the Idea of Dating has changed over time. The general idea of dating from a worldl aspect is

• Parental uninvolvement (Not always the case)
• Get to know the other person
• Hang out
• Sex

In society today dating is looked at as things such as bedhopping, or 'friends with benefits.' (This does not reduce temptation)

Not asking the father.

I honestly have to say my first response to this is ferocity, I hated the fact of advocating not asking my father, and that me saying going to my dad meant I was not interested. I will tell any guy any day to go talk to my dad when I am old enough to Court.

What is being advocated is circumventing MY FATHER!!!!

The one that my Lord, and Savior Jesus Christ, lay in protection of me. My friend posted a different responce from a guys stand point. He got a lot of negative feed back. Friends were criticizing him for taking the stance that the man should ask the father to have any relationship with his daughter. My father decided to comment with this, I approved it before he even posted it! My father cares for me, and is protecting me. 

  "A husband should be a Christian, must be the priest, prophet, protector, and provider. It is my responsibility, as the father, to first model this in my life to my daughter, but also to ensure that I seek biblical manhood in her potential husband. The word of God lays down clear requirements as to the responsibility of fathers. Fathers are the head of the family. To consider, as a believer, to circumvent the responsibility of the father in order date or court has shown great disrespect toward that father. I would not loan my automobile to a young man without him first seeking permission and me first getting to know his character as a driver. How much more precious is my daughter than any piece of metal. Remember guys, until I stand and say "her mother and I" on the day of her wedding, I am the one responsible for her to the God that gave me that responsibility. Sorry guys, I take that responsibility seriously. Therefore, whether you like it or not, you come through me to my daughter. Call me the dragon."

In conclusion I hope you find this article enlightening, and persuasive. I honestly stand behind what I have just stated. Again, no disrespect intended to Mr. Umstattd.

Love, the girl who is looking forward to courtship, marriage, a family involved in her relationships, and a young man who is brave enough to face the dragon for me. Sapphire.

If you have not read the Article 'Why courtship is fundamentally flawed.' this is the article I am responding to.

http://www.thomasumstattd.com/2014/08/courtship-fundamentally-flawed/

    

Revolution: Importance of Diverse Knowledge

As an NCFCA debater I learn about one specific subject ALL year long. Well, it isn't that specific. Our resolution is "To Significantly Reform Federal Election Law within the United States of America" and last year the resolution was to "Significantly Reform or Abolish the United Nations." These might seem like rather ambiguous topics, but not really. They center on what is currently happening in our world/society today! I have learned so much about our (United States) election system this year, such as, 

• FEC
• Electoral College
• Territories right to vote
• And D.C. 
• Etc...

The thing is, is that a well thought of person, is a person who knows a bit about everything! But is also willing to learn.

Teens are often thought of, as people who obsess over Video games, Actors, TV Shows, and possibly how the government is going to turn on us. The thing is, is when I talk to an adult, adults are often stunned that I am capable of holding an articulate conversation with them about something going on in our government and/or society. It's because I often have diverse knowledge, but still there are a lot of things I don't know, and don't really care for.

I hope that this article has inspired you to try to be more than the typical teenager, and to start a revolution against standardization.

-Sapphire

P.S. Are you interested in debating about National and International Topics? Are you interested in debating on values? Are you 12-18? Well if you live in the United States of America you are eligible to enter a speech and debate league with thousands of competitors nationwide. Check it all out at www.ncfca.org

Revolution: Think!

I can't believe it! No one expects me to critically think about anything! Not Adults, Friends, or family! If I think I get in trouble! The basic thing is, people hate it when you think, but when you think you can tell who to trust and who not to trust. The simple truth is that Teens are not expected to think. We are expected to just consume the information and regurgitate it on command! We are taught Math and Science hoping that we will be analytical because when you think...you're free. We are no longer taught to create, but we are taught to learn pointless facts that will never help us in the future! That's exactly what happened in Germany, NAZI GERMANY! They taught the teenagers to only take commands and no to question the command. So, when Hitler fell no one knew what to do! PARENTS STOP. MAKE YOUR KID THINK!!!! IT'S THE KINDEST THING YOU CAN DO FOR THEM! Don't put us in a bubble, don't make us think that we have to go with the flow. It is time to think for ourselves! And when we think, we can change the world. 

What do you think?  How can teens change the world? Let me know your ideas in the comments! And I might do a post on one!

-Sapphire

Revolution: Decepted teens

I don't understand it I really don't.  I once knew a woman who said it was normal for teenagers to have sexual relationships. That drinking was normal.  That rebellion was normal. Seclusion, lieing, and just plain being STUPID was normal, because we are teenagers, and that's what teenagers do. I found out an enourmous amount of parents believe that! Parents talk about their teenagers being so unresponsible, while these same parents are the ones who set the bar so low. They call us the leaders of the future, but how do they expect us to lead when they won't give us the challenge, ethics, and chance to lead. Adults say they can't trust us because we're teenagers, but it's their own fault we can't be trusted!  I'm sorry Iay be standing on my soap box, but really this has to change! What do you think?
-Sapphire