Relationships: Parents

I have a strong relationship with my parents, even stronger still with my mom. I talk to her day in and day out about my feelings, concerns, and trivial stuff. When I talk to my friends, they are often surprised to hear about my relationship, as though it was abnormal, or ridiculous to be able to talk to my parents about everything. So, I have decided to compile a short list of ways to maintain/regain your relationship with your parents. 

1. Truth. 

All relationships are built on Trust, without that you have nothing. Think about it this way. Imagine a large bridge and it is built out of bricks (Trust) when you lie or mislead it destroys the bridge completely. It is like a bomb detonating, everything is turned to rubble. The problem is that you cannot use new materials, you have to use the same materials over, and over, and over again. The more someone breaks your trust, the weaker the bridge will forever be. 

2. Talk 

I talk for hours with my mom and am never satisfied. You may say that your parents do not have enough time, or love you enough to take that time. To be honest, there are a few parents out there, but this is where you need to try. Sit one of your parents down and just tell them what you want to talk to them about. Tell them that you need them to be there for you, and that you need them to listen. That leads me to the next point. 

3. Listen. 

I know, I know. Your parents are 30-40 years old and they just do not understand, but there is no point in talking to your parents if you are not willing to consider their advice. I learned that the hard way. 

I was good friends with a guy, and that was the time I did not have feelings, I was about to enter that stage, I was 9, and this boy was mean to me and then apologized and started being nice to me. I was at youth camp and my 2 friends (At the time I thought they were my best friends) were talking with me, and I ended up telling them about the guy and him being mean then apologizing then being nice to me. They asked me if I liked him, and I said yes (As a friend). Later that day he confronted me saying he did not want a relationship and that he just wanted to remain friends, I was confused, angry, and upset. My best friends had told him something that was not even true! It ended up that the guy and I did not talk again for four years. I barely talk to him now, but things are resolved. 

How does this have to do with my mom? Well, she had recently started talking to me about how girls acted at this age and how if I want to keep my relationships with guys (Specifically those I have crushes on) I should not hint, nor tell any girls about it. But I have learned that every single time I have ever told a girl about a guy I like, I have gotten hurt. 

I am also like most of you. I have broken my parents trust. I have done things I wish I had not and am currently paying the consequences. 

Anyways, I hope this helps. Comment or email me with your thoughts! I might do a question and answer blog post soon, so email me those questions you want to feature in it!

-Sapphire

Relationships: 11 Ways to get the right guy to like you

First off notice the tag line says the RIGHT GUY not just a  guy....or else your looking in the wrong place...anyways here are my 11 ways to make the RIGHT guy to like you.

1. Be kind

When I was Twelve I had the worst time acting normally around guys, I was sarcastic, and often rude. Although it was unintentional many guys didn’t like to hang around me. Yes, it was that awkward stage, but still if I would have kept my mouth shut or maybe said a kind word to one of them, things might have gone a lot smoother. For me and for them.

2. Be honest

Okay, I know this is probably the hardest thing to do. You don’t want to lead them on and think that you’re opening up to them just because you like them, but you don’t want to reject them either. If your upset and they ask you what’s wrong and you don’t want to talk about it just say “I really don’t want to talk about it, but I could really use some prayer.” Or if you are good friends with them and are comfortable about it tell them!

This goes for if a guy is advancing on you too quickly. Believe me I know the feeling. You don’t know what to say, so you just leave it. YOU NEED TO SPEAK UP!!! A lot of emotional hurt will be avoided if you just talk to him.

3. Be Willing to wait

If you go after every guy out there, then you’re in for a world of pain. We’ve heard the phrase “There’s more than one fish in the sea” or something like that. Yes, that may be true, but if you go after every guy in the sea then you will lose a lot of respect in their eyes.

4. Don’t seem desperate

Again back to the needy thing. That goes for social media too. If you are constantly posting on Facebook, Twitter, and Google plus about waiting for the right guy and how you’re already planning out your wedding, guys often try to avoid you, sorry. Also we all know that one girl who constantly changing her relationship status from single to, is taken every 24-168hrs. (It’s annoying isn’t it?)

5. Put on some clothes

I talked in a past post about Modesty, guys are just looking for some eye candy and once they eat it, they throw away the wrapper.

(Look at this for more information on this topic http://goo.gl/mqlFGf)

6. Find your self-worth

You need to find why you are important, and let me tell you something, it’s not from your looks, your money, your friends, your popularity, or that hot new boyfriend you just got. Your Self-Worth should come from God!

7. Care for guy things too

I know this is a given, but I have learned if you want to make friends with ANYONE you have to be willing to give a little to get a little. Meaning if you want to talk to that guy about girl stuff, than you’d better to be willing to talk to that guy about guy stuff.

Tips

·         Sports

·         Guns/Camping

·         Video Games!!!

8. Make him feel needed

Let the guy know you don’t know what you would do without him. Have him open something, or just share with him something important. This can go a long way in a guy’s eyes. And a well place “I don’t know what I would do without you couldn’t hurt either.

9. Encourage chivalry

If a guy opens a door for you walk through it and thank him! If he pulls out a chair, sit and thank him. If you’re at a formal dance and he offers you his hand or his arm take it! More girls wish guys would act chivalrous, when in reality they don’t encourage him to be!

10.   Set boundaries

Whether emotional, spiritually, physically it is IMPORTANT!
I have had a few experiences with guys and to tell you the truth, it is hard as all get out to set these boundaries, but they are IMPORTANT! Plus, if he really loves you he will respect those boundaries you set and wait.

Also, you know you have a good guy if he is setting boundaries for himself. And will stick to them.

11.   Last but not least, Be Yourself!

If you are not yourself then the guy is not really getting to know the real you! If he was a real man he would accept you, size, shape, quirks and all.

Remember the right guy will wait until Marriage for you, and that is just the way God planned it. :)

So here we are at the final paragraph! Do you agree with any of this? Or do you disagree?

Also heads up! Thank you so much Blimey Cow for giving me this wonderful idea! Please go and watch their video at:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iqF_PtugyBk

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-Sapphire